December 2 2009, 18:58:12 #339 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
If your significant other is doing what you want and making sure you are satisfied sexually, take the time to return the favor. Don't take an egomaniac train of thought and think that they get all the satisfaction they need just from making you happy. I'm not ruling them out altogether, but trust me when I say that constant one-sided sexual encounters are the surest way to end up with no sex whatsoever.
So do your part
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December 2 2009, 19:08:12 #340 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
But sometimes they do get all the satisfaction they need just from making you happy.
Case in point, me.
December 2 2009, 19:20:28 #342 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
Ever been to tired to finish yourself? I can see it as a big deal if all you have is sex, but, realistically... life isn't always fair.
December 2 2009, 19:24:07 #343 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@342
>>Ever been to tired to finish yourself?
Yup, but it was more than worth it for me.
December 2 2009, 19:41:35 #344 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@340 I totally get that and I often feel that way too. But it gets to where my fiance acts like that's ALWAYS the case.
It's like he feels that if he finished and I had fun getting him there, that must be all the fun I can handle and he doesn't need to bother doing anything.
It frustrates me because getting him off makes me so hot and I love it, but then as soon as he's done that's that nothing for me. Ever. And it IS fun, don't get me wrong, but @342 it's not fun having to finish myself off every time.
December 2 2009, 20:01:42 #346 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@344 Have you told him that?
As a man speaking about another man, if he can't hear that from you as a constructive thing and work to fix it, maybe you shouldn't be getting married just yet.
December 2 2009, 20:03:09 #348 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@344
I'm sorry to hear that. I am lucky enough to have a girlfriend who feels the same way I do. It still amazes me how awesome she is.
Now, I am by no means a relationship expert, but I would recommend that you try talking to him. If you explain how you feel and he still isn't interested in your needs, then you have some issues you might want to work out. Preferably before marriage.
December 2 2009, 20:06:37 #351 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
Well I've kind of hinted at it but he just says i wear him out and he's too tired to do anything. And he never initiates anything either so the next time I want some I'll do it for him, hoping he gets the hint. But he never does.
Are you married or something?
December 2 2009, 20:08:17 #352 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
Sorry, the above comment was suppoed to be @346...
December 2 2009, 20:10:38 #353 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@348 Well he used to be really thoughtful about it when we were first dating. he said all these great things about how he thought it was unfair the way so many guys just cared about their own needs getting met and didn't make sure that their woman was taken care of, and that he would never be like that. kind of makes me laugh now. is he just going to get even more lazy about it when we're married? I'm thinking probably so!
December 2 2009, 20:15:40 #355 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@346 here, I'm a man and I'm married. Withholding sex is a bad plan from a marriage standpoint (not saying that to judge, just as an observation). I would suggest asking him to try to finish you before you finish him... it's worth a try.
December 2 2009, 20:21:24 #358 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@355 that's just such an awkward conversation to have with him, I guess. I know, your gonna say I shouldn't be getting married if I cant tell him that, lol.
isn't there a good way to hint at it that a guy would get? cause I want him to initiate things but it never happens and it's no fun if I have to ask for it because then it's not exciting and romantic. should I just tell him what i want him to do sometime and maube he'll remember and do it at some point so that i kind of told him what i want but not when to do it so it's kind of spontaneous?
December 2 2009, 20:30:34 #359 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@358
For centuries, women have been trying to give men hints. For twice as long, we men have utterly failed at understanding them. For the most part, we really wish women would just tell us whatever they're hinting at.
For example, say I have an odor problem after a long day's work:
Male friend: "Dude, you smell like shit. You're not getting in my car."
Girlfriend/fiance: "Don't you want to take a shower before we go, honey?" (the answer will likely be no, because Mr. Smelly wants to go eat, and being dirty doesn't bother him nearly as much as it's bothering others.)
The offense we feel over the blunt approach is slight and quickly forgotten, especially if we're able to smell nice and get close to our woman.
December 2 2009, 20:43:28 #360 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@359 So he probably won't have hurt feelings if I just tell him what i want? Cause i know if I was the one not doing what he wanted I'd feel SO bad about it once I realized. Like I'd feel TERRIBLE.
Your wife must be pretty lucky, you sound cool!
December 2 2009, 20:50:23 #361 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@350 Thank you, but I think I'm the lucky one :D
It's been our experience as a couple that she has the attitude that you expressed too. Honestly, if your fiance loves you I think he'll be receptive and while he might feel somewhat bad about it, all you should need to do is make it clear that all you really want is to work together to make sure things are good for both of you.
December 2 2009, 21:41:11 #368 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@361 Awwe that's so cute!
Yeah, I think most women would feel that way. oh well. At least most guys dont, or we'd all have hurt feelings all the time, right?!
Well thanks for the info and have a great night and go sex up your wife something good, you hear me? lol
December 2 2009, 22:37:53 #376 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
On a semi-related note, I wanna get one of these hats.
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