December 9 2009, 21:25:00 #629 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]

Spouses come first. Always. If they aren't top priority, there's nothing to stop them from going from the #2 spot to the #102 spot.

December 10 2009, 01:16:05 #634 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]

spouse first if you want to have a happy life.
I'm personally (not necessarily the smart plan I know) avoiding romantic contact so I may become successful doing what I want to do, unfettered. Spouse will come later or not at all, I have to take care of my family though so for me I have to worry about finances first.