December 19 2009, 22:51:47 #810 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
For the guys, because I'm curious:
Imagine that you are busy gaming, sleeping, talking with friends online, reading, watching a movie, or even just zoning out, etc. Your significant other comes over and interrupts you by giving you head.
On a scale of 1-10 (one being the lowest and ten being the highest) how annoying would this be? And, for example, would it be less annoying if she interrupted when you were watching a movie rather than while you were sleeping, or would your "annoyance" factor be the same regardless of what activity you were doing at the time? What's something you absolutely would not want to be disturbed from like this?
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December 20 2009, 02:00:53 #820 [1 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
I would get really annoyed (6-8 depending on activity being interrupted) by this regardless of what I'm doing, if she wants it she can damn well ask, then I wouldn't mind, the exception to this would be if I'm doing nothing like zoning out or sleeping, but if I'm DOING something ASK dammit.
the flip side of this is I don't care about sex as a rule, I have minimal sex drive and 90% of what I would/do do is for her sake not mine.
December 20 2009, 09:58:19 #825 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@820 Wow, that was an interesting read. Do you ever wish your sex drive was higher or are you pretty happy with the way things are?
@821 Sweeeeet. Must be honest, that's more the kind of answer I was expecting.
December 20 2009, 10:43:25 #826 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
this is 820 again, how was it interesting?
also I think its fine I don't get distracted and I have met many guys who are obsessed with sex and I am quite happy that I'm not, its low enough though that it does get annoying (people assuming I swing the other way cause of it) cuz other than that <---- problem they also bug me to get a girl friend even though I do not -want- one.
December 20 2009, 10:51:06 #828 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@826 The vehemence with which you gave your answer was surprising, that's all. You don't see very many guys who would get that ticked off at being offered a blowjob.
December 20 2009, 13:37:47 #833 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
well 2 things, one: not really vehemence, just properly outlining my position and two, thats not an offer its an intrusion...
Like I said though I have minimal to no sex drive if -she- wants some thing I'll give it gladly -anything- she wants to try or what ever (even if its some thing that she wants to do to me, but its not for me its for her). me? I don't in point of fact really want anything. :/
December 20 2009, 21:34:37 #846 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@844 I'm surprised. Not that I think all men are driven solely by sex, but, I mean, you would really rather do something else? If my girlfriend came onto me like that, I'd drop anything.
December 20 2009, 22:19:53 #848 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
Sometimes a man just needs time to do "nothing". We like to focus on things sometimes.
December 20 2009, 22:22:57 #849 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
No, I know what you mean, I need time to be alone sometimes too, but I still wouldn't turn away a blowjob.
December 20 2009, 22:57:05 #852 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@846 That's that kind of attitude I like! Haha. I can't even imagine how many times my feelings would be hurt if my husband just "let" me give him a blowjob even though he really couldn't care less about it.
December 20 2009, 23:13:03 #855 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@853 But that would get to be insulting after a while too, because we women would take it personally and as a sign that you were not sexually interested in us at all. Which would work pretty well if you were with a chick who didn't care one way or the other, I guess... I just can't imagine being like that.
December 21 2009, 02:14:39 #860 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
820 again, well to be honest some women just need to stop assuming and -ask- not assume that we are ignoring them cuz we don't like them, we are not even ignoring them, we just need some time to get things done, or to at least relax.
December 21 2009, 19:41:58 #869 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
It's not like I'm talking about a woman who wants to be giving you a blowjob 23 hours out of the day, every day of the week. I'm talking more along the lines of a once every couple weeks kind of a deal, where she just really wants to do that for you.
December 21 2009, 19:42:51 #870 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
I just don't see how a guy could get annoyed about that.
December 22 2009, 02:45:12 #876 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
820 again, I wont try to explain as it does not make sense to most people, and flies in the face of common sense.
all I can say is as said before I have a nearly non-existent sex drive so it gets annoying to be interrupted when I'm doing some thing.
December 22 2009, 05:01:44 #877 [1 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
844 here, ill jump in. maybe ill help. i find that a blowjob every once and a while is nice. and sometimes i just need to get my rocks off. but i really like working for it. i like having to do things to turn a girl on. i like my pleasure to be mutual. if i was surprised by a bj it would be not as much fun because there isnt a pleasure return. also, i would feel kind of used if that happened.
idk maybe think of it this way. would you be annoyed even maybe moderately if your guy came out of no where and started fingering you while you were in the middle of doing something?
i just dont like the idea of going from 0 to orgasm back to 0. i like there to be a gradual build, and mulitple peaks until a crash and cuddle. unless of corse i am asking for a quickie. but that doesnt happen super often. only when i am frustrated and want a break from working, but only want a short refreshing break.
December 22 2009, 08:04:23 #878 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
I agree with you 844, but by the same token its not 100% like that for me.
But its a good enough one, I agree that its a lot better if she is enjoying it too, which is why I said I'd do anything she wanted, its just due to my sex drive its not for me. She likes it, than I enjoy it, but I'm not really interested in the physical pleasure, if I had to choose between sex and getting to cuddle with her I'd take cuddling over sex.
December 22 2009, 08:05:00 #879 [0 Agree] [1 S] [0 T]
I agree with you 844, but by the same token its not 100% like that for me.
But its a good enough one, I agree that its a lot better if she is enjoying it too, which is why I said I'd do anything she wanted, its just due to my sex drive its not for me. She likes it, than I enjoy it, but I'm not really interested in the physical pleasure, if I had to choose between sex and getting to cuddle with her I'd take cuddling over sex.
December 22 2009, 08:08:00 #880 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
oops didn't mean to double post, and accidently pressed minus when I wanted to press plus -_-;;
December 22 2009, 08:18:00 #882 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@878 I'm curious to know roughly how old you are.
December 22 2009, 10:25:31 #885 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@877 Ok, but when I give a blowjob 9 times out of 10 I REALLY enjoy it. It's fun for me and I want to do it both for my own pleasure and his. And I would see how it could be "using" the guy if he didn't like blowjobs, but who here - who has a sex drive - doesn't like blowjobs?
Haha, and I would have absolutely no problem with the scenario you posed. Whatever I'm doing will still be there when I'm done having fun.
December 22 2009, 11:52:29 #887 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
well I guess 885 has it this is 820 signing off :p
December 22 2009, 18:50:39 #899 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
821 here. I also like it best when my girlfriend is enjoying herself, but the thing is, she likes blowjobs almost more than I do. You gotta realize that some women really like giving head.
December 22 2009, 19:47:43 #900 [0 Agree] [0 S] [0 T]
@899 Yeah. I'm not always in the mood to give one, but when I am I'm enjoying myself almost as much as he is.